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The Second To Last Word

"The last word" is the defining word. It summarizes the conversation, wraps up the discussion, and finalizes the decision. This is why we want to "get the last word in" and become frustrated when someone else does. We don't want to be defined by others. We don't want to allow others the final say. We fight and prolong the argument until we get the last word. This type of interaction does great harm to our relationships which last beyond any one conversation. Perhaps it would be best if we could learn to be content with the second to last word.

The real problem is that we will never be able to define anyone because we will never know enough about them to put them in a box. Our definition of another person can at best be fluid as we learn more about who they truly are. We need to stop trying to put people in a box (we hate it when they do that to us) and start listening, learning, and being curious about who they truly are.

If we commit ourselves to learning more about others then we will find that our hearts are naturally open. God wants to speak to us through the people we meet and through the circumstances we have in life. Yet, we never listen because we're too busy working on having the last word. Instead, leave the last word to God and listen to the word being spoken to you, after all it might be coming from God.

Sunday we saw how scripture time and time again encourages us to upgrade the hate of others into love. - to repay evil with kindness, cursing with blessing. We can't do that if we want the last word in order to tell someone who they really are, where their place really is, and what we really think about them. This desire to have the last word holds us captive and places us in the position of judge. We will only move past this if we leave judgment to God and let him have the last word. If God has the last word then I suspect we could be content with the second to last word.