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Build A Bridge Through Dialogue

We are in desperate need of more dialogue. A dialogue is an exchanging of ideas, which implies that I listen to you and you listen to me. I hear what you say; you hear what I say. Unfortunately today we have less dialogue and more monologue. We make ranting posts on Facebook about someone, something, some group, some business, some organization. There are some people who just want to complain, who want to monologue, and hear their own voice. The problem is that if everyone is talking then no one is listening. We need dialogue especially over the things which we disagree. Dialogue builds a bridge where monologue builds a wall. How do we build a bridge? How do we dialogue? It starts with asking others about their beliefs. Ask because it communicates that you want to know. If I start by sharing my view then I might short circuit the conversation either they agree and say, “I agree.” Or they disagree and don’t want to argue so they say, “I’m not sure.” Or they’re undecided until you t

Questions Build Trust & Understanding

Everyone wants to have life-giving conversations. These conversations are started with questions because we build trust and understanding through questions. I’m afraid that in many ways we’ve lost our ability to converse. We limit our conversations to texts and tweets. We’re afraid of offending so we don’t ask and because we don’t ask we don’t understand. We have a hard time communicating about things of significance, even truths of eternal significance. As Christians we want to talk about Jesus because he’s changed the world and us. Yet, we have a hard time having a conversation about him because we have a hard time conversing. Over the next few weeks at church and on the blog I want to unpack some truths I’ve seen about conversations from Jesus’ interaction with the disciples in Matthew 16, here are three. Our best conversations happen in the “real world.” One of the reasons I think people struggle to talk in church or in class is they don’t want to be wrong. When you have a c

The Three Best Places To Get Wisdom

Earlier I posted about listening and how it was the original lifehack from the book of Proverbs. But, who should we listen to? Recently I heard about “chipmunk speed” a setting you can use to listen to podcasts at 5x speed. This (in theory) lets you listen to a podcast faster. I have my doubts about this because if you’re in a hurry to get done listening, are you really listening at all? We need to listen to those who are worth listening to and take the time to gather their wisdom. But, who are these sages? I can think of three people we should always listen to. Perspective from those who care for us. Do you want advice that is in your best interest? Get it from someone who simply wants you to succeed! There have been a lot of commercials and laws passed in the past couple of years about people who give financial advice. It was revealed that some advisors were not giving what is called fiduciary advice, advice in their client’s best interest. Instead these advisors were giving advi